Introduction: What is Forgiveness, and Why Should We Forgive Someone?
Forgiveness has been a hot topic of late. In the last few years, we have seen a renewed interest in the idea that forgiveness is not just an option but an obligation to ourselves and those around us. The consequences of anger or resentment, it seems, are too high. Nowadays many people are looking for ways to move beyond the negative emotions that so often lead to revenge and pain for everyone involved. It is for this reason that forgiveness has become a staple in many discussions about the problems of being human.
However, despite the fact that forgiveness is something that is preached by many, there are still apprehensions about what it means to forgive. Some have an idea of forgiveness as something like “turning a blind eye” to the wrong that has been done to them. In this view, forgiveness means acting as if nothing happened. However, for many people this is a hard thing both to do and to accept. Most people would say that, while they may be able to forgive in the abstract, they still feel angry and hurt when they see their offender. Therefore, many have claimed that forgiveness is nothing more than a “benevolent lie to make the victim feel better”.
How to Use Forgiveness in Your Life
Forgiveness is an essential part of life. It can help you forgive yourself and others. You can use this practice, to forgive someone else, to have a healthy relationship. For example, in marriage. You are not an angel or a god, you make mistakes, but then you learn from them and do better. You are not perfect, nobody is. It is not so difficult to forgive others and yourself, when you think of your own mistakes. We all make mistakes, but you don’t need to be afraid to make more. We learn from our mistake and we become better.
Forgiveness can also help us let go of the past and live in present moment. For example, when I was 3 years old I stuffed a toy bunny into a running vacuum cleaner and it broke into many pieces. I am really sorry for this, I know it was not my fault, but I still wish I could redo that day. It was a scary and sad experience. The only way to let go of the past is to forgive it.
Forgiveness is a healthy part of your life, because it can help you have a healthy relationship with yourself and with others.