Introduction: What is Self-Love and Why is it Important for Successful Relationships?
Self-love is the most important thing you can do for yourself because it affects your relationships with other people. Self-love is not approval of what you are doing but rather the understanding that life is difficult and nobody can love you or be there for you as much as yourself. This means making time to do things that make you happy, not just attending to what others want from you. This is one of the most important things to understand in a relationship because if we are not happy, how can we expect our partners to be happy?
Self-love allows you to see the good in yourself and not just the flaws. When you embrace your imperfections, you have a better understanding that everyone has flaws and it does not mean you are flawed. Accepting your flaws, you have a better understanding of how to work on your flaws and become more perfect, which is important because when you are with someone else, it is difficult to know if they accept your flaws and similar things about themselves. This means that self-love allows you to be honest with yourself and this is important because people hate a bully.
Cultivating the Inner Peace in Relationships
It is not possible to have a successful relationship with another person if you do not have peace within yourself. Many times the cause of difficulties in your relationships is because all of your energy is focused on what you want to happen rather than how it might be possible to make it happen. For example, you might wish that you were married and living with someone but instead of considering the many obstacles like finances and children, you focus on how the relationship could happen. The more you focus on things that are not possible, the more difficult it becomes to see what is possible and how to make things work.
There are millions of men and women on this earth. There are many factors that contribute to the number of people being in your life by chance. Therefore, your chances of finding love are reduced because you limit your world by the focus you have placed on one person. Although it may be necessary to move away from an abusive relationship or to end a relationship because it has become destructive to you or someone else, at other times, when things look so bad, they may not be as bad as they appear. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Ross Rosenberg on Wednesday, January 3, 2008 · Leave a Comment
The psychology of a narcissist is fascinating and sad. The narcissist’s grandiose self-perception of his abilities distracts him from reality and increases his risk for injury in many different ways.
Developing the Inner Skills to Create & Maintain a Strong Relationship Connection with Yourself and Your Partner
Unfortunately, many people are incapable of maintaining strong connection with their partners because they do not have strong connections with themselves. This makes it hard to care about yourself and others. If you do not know what you want in life or what makes you happy, how can you expect to have a relationship that lasts? To be in a successful relationship, both people need to enjoy the relationship and feel happy. However, if one person is not happy and does not want the relationship, it is best not to force the other person to stay in the relationship for your own personal gain.
This is what happens to many people, because they cannot find the inner strength to walk away and live their own lives. They become trapped in a cycle, where they constantly feel the need to please others, never making any decisions for themselves and becoming completely miserable. Contrary to popular belief, the entire world does not revolve around you. If you do not have strong connections with yourself first, then you will never be able to develop strong connections with others. The only way to develop a strong connection with everyone you love is to first develop a strong connection to yourself.
What are the Causes Behind Relationship Addiction?
The most commonly used addiction to numb emotions is food. The obsession with food can have its roots in childhood and early on, is a strategy to distract from life’s difficulties. People who have food addictions have very little control over their eating habits and eat far more than they should when they are on a binge. When used as a form of self-medication for depression, anxiety, stress and other emotional issues, overeating makes people feel better temporarily until the next binge begins.
Relationship addiction is also an attempt to control life’s feelings and circumstances. It is a way of trying to remain safe in a dangerous world. By creating excitement and drama, addictive personalities seek to make life more manageable by controlling what happens. This may include the behavior of their partners, who are often seen as sources of pain or shame that need to be managed or even avoided. The partner’s needs and emotions are not considered; the focus is on how they make the addict feel.