Introduction: What is meant by “bullying?”
Bullying is a form of harassment. The term bullying can be used to describe the act itself, which would typically consist of repeated acts over time, as well as the general idea or attitude towards others. Bullying has been around for centuries and has included many different forms of violence including verbal abuse, relational abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse. Physical bullying is common among children and adolescents; this form of bullying is classified as “acquisitive” (Able 1996). A common example of this type of bullying includes the use of physical force to intimidate others or take something they don’t want. Other forms of bullying consist of spreading rumors, name calling, teasing and excluding someone from a group (Kauchak 2007).
When someone is being bullied, he or she will go through a wide range of emotions. The most common emotions expressed by people who are being bullied include feeling upset/angry, frustrated, sad/hopeless and anxious. Other feelings expressed while being bullied include feeling confused, intimidated, ashamed and embarrassed (Kauchak 2007; Able 1996). Being bullied can lead to feelings of anxiety, a decrease in self-esteem, and an inability to cope with everyday life. After enduring any type of bullying for some time, the person being bullied may experience health problems like insomnia and anxiety.
An Overview of the Various Types of Bullies and the Effects on Children
Bullying is a prominent issue in today’s society. It is a major problem among children and adolescents; this includes children with disabilities, LGBTQI+ children, as well as race and socio-economic status. Bullying has existed since the beginning of time; however, it was not as prominent until the past century. The phrase “bully” comes from the Middle English word “bulder”, which means to obstruct or hinder (from Old French “bouler”, to throw flat). However, bullying also encompasses the more broad definition of: “an act of violence or other aggression motivated by hostility, dislike, or a desire for control”.
Bullying is an everyday social dilemma that occurs at school, at home, in the workplace, on the street, and online. Typically, bullying behavior involves overt actions of an aggressor such as physical assault or verbal abuse. Although there are a lot of different types of bullying behaviors, these actions always involve a power difference between the bully and their victim which increases the chances that they will escalate their aggression. One of the main causes of bullying is usually aggressive behavior. Unfortunately, some people develop a personality trait called sadistic personality disorder.
The Fair Folk – The Ugly Duckling Fairytale
A beautiful young girl is born into a poor family. As a child, she suffers physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her parents and the other children in her community. This abuse causes her to have severe self-esteem issues, which are accentuated by her body’s appearance. At a young age, she creates a heroic image in her mind to protect herself from future bullying. She grows up in an unhappy marriage and has two children with physical disabilities. The children are happy for many years until both become victims of physical abuse at school. The children are teased about their disabilities and also about their appearance; this causes the children to feel inferior because of the way they look. After being bullied by students from her school, she is put into a mental hospital; this is due to her continuously refusing to eat. The beautiful girl becomes invisible, which allows her abusive parent’s to gain control of the children. After learning that she is adopted, she becomes extremely angry at her parent’s and the hospital staff, causing her to try to kill her siblings one night, but is stopped by the guards in the hospital. The Fair Folk treat the children as if they were their own children and show them love for the first time. The girl develops a new body image after being treated kindly for a long period of time. In the end, everything works out for this family where it has not worked out for any other family in history before them.
“The Fair Folk – The Ugly Duckling Fairytale”
Queen Mab – The Scottish Fairytale
Queen Mab was a fairy whose name came from the Latin “Mab” which means “baby”. She was said to be a fairy that took the spirit of a baby from its sleeping mother. Queen Mab is fair in appearance, but also very tiny in size. She is vain about her beauty; she often compares herself to other beings and things. She is similar to a fairy queen, in that she rules the witches who are also vain about their physical appearance. Queen Mab is similar to Cinderella’s stepmother, in that she looks down on the subjects under her domain and often causes them to suffer for her vanity and vanity alone. Queen Mab is similar to a fairy godmother in that she helps her subjects and also rescues them from dangers.
“Once upon a time I heard that I was ugly.” (Story of Beauty & the Beast, Beauty & the Beast, “Fairy Tale” The Story of Cinderella)
In “The Story of Beauty and the Beast”, the story goes like this: In a kingdom that lived in France, there was a king who had three beautiful daughters. He had no sons, and so he feared he may lose the throne to another man. One day, the King heard a fairy tell him that if he married his youngest daughter to a monster named “Beauty” she would break the curse which was upon him and his kingdom. “Hearing this, the King then banished Beauty from the kingdom” (The Story of Beauty and the Beast).
The King of France worked very hard to find Beauty but did not know who she was. The prince soon knew that she was Beauty, because “The fairies told him so”, and he asked for her hand in marriage. But she refused, saying that the King should first prove his love for her by taking her to live in his palace. The King agreed to this, but took Beauty while she was sleeping (The Story of Beauty and the Beast).
Conclusion: The Most Progressive Story in Fairytales
In this story, the Ugly Duckling is a victim of abuse. The abusive characters in the story are the parents and other children that caused her to suffer abuse. (The Ugly Duckling is also a victim of physical and emotional abuse.) The Ugly Duckling is constantly telling herself lies and then convincing others that she has shamed herself. As the girls in the story grow, they become victims of abuse. While the Ugly Duckling molds her image to avoid being bullied, the other girls are molded by their environments. This causes the Ugly Duckling and her sisters to suffer from anxiety and depression. The Ugly Duckling is a victim of this abuse because she has been branded as ugly by her peers. The other girls are victims of the so called “tough crowd” and their own community. These YA characters suffer from social anxiety and depression due to their appearance and the scorn they receive from the people they interact with on a daily basis.
The Ugly Duckling develops anxiety when the other animals in her environment do not accept her for who she is. She also develops a deep depression and attempts to remove herself from the source of her pain by running away.