Thu. Jul 7th, 2022

Introduction: The Myth of Sacrifice

The myth of sacrifice is so common in religion, media and popular culture that it’s easy to feel that giving anything less than your all, sacrificing your health or relationships or happiness is ultimately what you’re supposed to do. But this kind of thinking is the result of not looking closely enough at what we value and why. There are many things that we want more because they make us happy, satisfied and healthy which doesn’t mean that we have to sacrifice to get them. We can do it all, we can give and get, and there is no one who will tell us that we have to choose between self-care and putting ourselves out there. The myth of sacrifice is the idea that we have to do without what makes our lives worth living in order to be of use to others or to God.
It starts as children when we are told that we need to sacrifice our own wants and needs in order to get along with others, in order to be a good friend, or a good son, daughter or sibling. In the classroom, when we don’t do our best because we don’t want to disappoint our teachers. It continues into adulthood with relationships where partners pressure each other into giving up what they want for themselves because it will make the other person happy, or stable, or rich. Where we tell our children that if they want to be happy, they need to make others happy too.

to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift
to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift

Pros and Cons of Giving anything less

The biggest problem with giving all your energy and passion to something is that you will never feel fulfilled. The myth of sacrifice is false, because not giving more is never the opposite of giving everything. In fact, the meaning of “giving” is actually more about learning to be present emotionally and practically in the moment and learn to give time and energy to other people first. If you think that doing less makes you more than a whole person, then you need to re-think that idea. It is important to be present, because only then can you learn to listen to others and let them into your life.
If you choose to give yourself fully in order for your passion to be fulfilled, it will undoubtedly take a toll on your happiness and the lives of your loved ones. One of the basic principles of energy is that it flows where attention goes. If you focus all of your attention on something you love, then you will be able to experience the joy of that activity fully, but the same energy will flow out of the activity and into your life.

to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift
to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift

10 Ways to Give Anything Less with Happiness in Mind

You can make happiness a priority in your life by learning how to give up the things that will keep you from having it. Below are some strategies you can use to give things less without having to feel deprived, depressed or sad. These ideas will help you get your life in order and solve the relationship problems that keep you from being happy. They will also help you feel more than the sum of your parts as a whole person.
Some of us are so wrapped up in ourselves that the things we do and the things we want to do and give to others can get in the way of our realizing that happiness is not always about getting, having or doing. We forget that happiness isn’t something you can get from a lover, a friend or a stranger. You can only find it by giving it to yourself. That’s why it feels good when you help others to be happy.
Giving things less doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you don’t get to have fun. It only means that you know how to prioritize and how to say no. You get to say no because you’re giving yourself permission not to do things on other people’s terms.
1) Say No To People Who Don’t Love You As Much As You’d Like Them To

to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift
to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift

Conclusion – The Importance of Giving Anything Less Without Sacrifice

The myth of sacrifice is not true because most things we do in life that don’t make us happy, don’t also make us better. We can all make choices to be healthy and happy at the same time, by being present and living in the moment. You can give the kind of life you want to have, with or without sacrificing anything. The only sacrifice is to not do anything, not to live.
I began this experiment by doing nothing for a month. I read books, go for walks and ride a bicycle, but I did not write, call my friends or look at Facebook. During that time I didn’t even go out to lunch with my wife or visit friends or family. I did not have a single conversation with anyone from work during that period of time. I was not working, I had no clients to work with, and my personal life was completely gone.
I did nothing during this month except for three things: reading the books, go for walks and ride a bicycle. I had no conflicts, quarrels or arguments with anyone at all. I did not go out to lunch or dinner with anyone, and I didn’t even see friends or family that frequently. I was living very much in the moment and being present with what was around me.

to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift
to give anything less is to sacrifice the gift